White Easter in London

We have snow!!!
I can't believe the weather men were right! Snow in London at Easter! :bounce: It's very fine and only settling on roofs etc, but it's SNOW!!!

Makes me giggle now, I was talking to some Kiwi mums at the BF cafe a couple of months back when we had that really warm spell. They were saying that's it, winter's over! I said Naaahh, we've had no snow yet!
Gotta admit, time was getting on a bit and I thought I might be wrong! lol



Me and Liam had a bit of a row last night, but I'm not entirely sure what about. Well, I know what it was about, but not sure where the bad feeling came from and of course he buggered off out of the room as usual so I was left none the wiser.
We were talking about parenting choices. I mentioned how I make all the decisions when it comes to our children. I rarely say it, but I pointed out how I don't mind this. When an important decision is to be made I bring the subject up with him. I don't often specifically ask him for his views because he never looks in to or reads up on anything, and he never has an opinion.
But I do bring it up! I see the conversation as an invitation for him to give his thoughts if he wants to - and as I have pointed out I would *gladly* take them on board.

I would prefer that he thought about something and cared enough to research it a little, even if it meant that he disagreed with my decision. I would prefer for us to make a decision together.
He says it will only lead to arguments, and that I come across as a 'dictator' style parent.
I don't want to be that kind of parent! As I pointed out to him, I do invite his opinions - I could leave the children with never getting vaccinations, I could have formula fed, I could have sent them to the crappy school nearby having never consulted him. Alternatively, I could have done all the things I have done without telling him. He would never have even known about vaccinations - he would never have given it thought how I fed our children because -in my eyes- he doesn't take the time to find these things out.

Now all this time I thought it was because he trusted me enough to make the RIGHT choice. I trust him to go out and get the money to feed us and he trusts me to make the important parenting decisions.
But no - apparently I'm a dictator parent and the reason he doesn't mention anything to me is because he's worried about the argument that he 'knows' will follow.
Of course I asked him for an example. When? Just once - when has he disagreed with me over a decision but been scared to say something? I knew there would be no answer and I was right.
These conversations/arguments *always* go the same way. If the roles were reversed he would accuse me of making it up for the sake of a row.

He tried to finish the conversation by repeatedly saying 'it doesn't matter, it's just me. It's just my view so it doesn't matter' - and I answered every time if it's 'just' you it's the whole of the rest of our parenting relationship!!! There are only two of us parents, so if he disagrees with something then that's half of us undecided - I *need* to know how he feels if he doesn't like something. If he doesn't say anything then how can we be joint in our decisions? He even said that the people I know online have more input in parenting decisions than him. FFS this just made me think *complex!*

So he got up and went downstairs. Following him would only make matters worse so I rolled over and was asleep within seconds.
I do find that funny I value my sleep FAR too much to be one of these people that can't sleep on an argument! lol Or maybe I'm just too shattered after each long day.